The “naturally thin” double standard.
Before I get into the meat of this post, a quick Torrid update. Joy from Torrid contacted me at the end of the day of my rant and basically apologized for my troubles, explaining why they had the policy they did, and assuring me that they will rewrite their system to make it easier for deafies in the future.
They also offered to send me my order with free express shipping. I declined and bought a Crockpot from Target instead. I currently have a chicken cooking at home as I work. I’m so excited about my first crockpot chicken!
Ahem.
So, today I was reading an actual printed newspaper (made on real wood pulp!) while on break, and came across an article entitled “Naturally Thin People have Life Challenges Too”
It was an…interesting bit of writing. I found an online copy here.
Overall, it wasn’t a bad article. A lot was said about how you can’t judge a person’s health by his or her size, that weight is more than what we do or eat, and that genes and metabolism have much to do with it, and that talking to people about their weight or appearance is rude, and probably damaging.
While genetics and ethnicity play major roles, there is no one-size-fits-all reason why some people are slim and remain so without really trying, says Kaiser Permanente registered dietitian Nora Norback.
Bottom line: Don’t judge a body by weight, because it’s not about numbers. “It’s about health,” Norback says. “Healthy people do come in different shapes and sizes, but at the extreme ends, we certainly see more health problems. We make a lot of our judgments on how a person looks. But you shouldn’t assume that someone is unhealthy if they’re really thin.”
To rule out eating disorders, Norback looks at a variety of factors beyond the scale, including body image, diet and malnutrition, hydration status and exercise frequency. Certainly, it’s important to remember that there are naturally thin people who make an effort and those who just are thin without trying a whole lot.
However, despite all this good news, I came away from it mildly miffed at the double standard that these things apply only to thin folks. For instance,
But the skinny life has its challenges. Clothes are difficult to find. And Brueheim has heard a lifetime of hurtful comments. “I’m healthy, I have a lot of energy, and yet people will say such things, like, ‘Gosh, you need to eat more.’ We’d never say such things to an overweight person,” she says.
“…never say such things to an overweight person.” The hell you say! Yeah, no one tells fatties they need to eat more, but they sure do feel free to tell fatties to lay off the chips and cookies all the time. And the actual truth of the matter is that a dieting person, fat or thin, does need to eat more.
When it come right down to it, I’m miffed at the double standard that what applies to thin folks doesn’t apply to fatties. I’m miffed that the eating habits of thin people–healthy or not– are judged morally superior to fat people’s. I’m miffed tht thin folks get the benefit of the doubt from the media, the health industry, from society. Why can’t us fatties get the same benefit?
Oh, yeah, cuz we are all greedy, overconsuming slobs hell-bent on destroying the earth with our evil fatty ways!
Atchka! 12:11 pm on December 29, 2009 Permalink
Oh, come off it Rachel. Thin people are under much, MUCH more pressure to eat more than fat people. You act like it’s so hard being fat. “Oh, look at me, I’m fat, so I can’t by affordable, stylish clothes in my size.” Wah, wah, wah.
I’m a size 4 and the other day I found this gorgeous dress that was a size 6 and it hung on me like a tent! This is oppression of the highest order!
You fatties are so lucky. It’s like this world was handed to you on a silver platter. I mean, every Hollywood movie stars a fat actress effortlessly falling in love, all the magazines boast the beauty of curves, and everywhere you look, there are “Stop Being So Damned Skinny Already” campaigns.
Get out of your ivory tower, Perfect McFatty and try living down here with us real people for once.
Peace,
Shannon
ps Congrats on the Torrid affair.
noceleryplease 12:27 pm on December 29, 2009 Permalink
The comments on that article were, for the most part, surprisingly mild. I expected a lot more fat hate in there.
hsofia 2:52 pm on December 29, 2009 Permalink
I have a really thin friend who does get heckled and criticized about what she eats (or doesn’t eat). And it’s hard for her because she used to have an eating disorder. It doesn’t just hurt her feelings; it is painful because she has to struggle not to resort to her past behaviors and mindset.
I have another friend whose body changed post pregnancy (of course), and she was rueing the loss of her wardrobe and the figure she’d had before, when another friend told her, “oh thank god; you were an emaciated stick before; you look way better now.”
Anna 7:16 pm on December 29, 2009 Permalink
Huh. It never occured to me before, but when she says “You would never say that to a fat person” it sounds like it comes for a place where they’re offended, but honestly don’t think it’s on par with “Hey, you should try not eating so much” etc because they can’t imagine fat people would get offended, because surely they don’t know any better right?
I’m not articulating this post very well.
Anna 7:21 pm on December 29, 2009 Permalink
WAIT! I thought of something!
The example I’m thinking of is like, if a person is of race A and someone makes a derogatory comment towards them, they could say “No one would ever say that to someone of race B!” but people do say that to people of race B, but the first person can’t comprhend that would be JUST AS offensive.
The old “My oppression is worse than your oppression” hooplah.
Ashley 6:49 pm on December 30, 2009 Permalink
I didn’t see anywhere where they said that fat people don’t have trouble finding clothes that fit. I’m pretty sure most people realize this and a list of other trials and tribulations fat people go through. I think the article was just trying to say that thin people go through things too.
CTJen 8:28 pm on December 31, 2009 Permalink
Shannon already said everything I was going to. So… yeah. FUF!
erika 12:11 pm on January 18, 2010 Permalink
People tend to act like it’s NOT hurtful to say “You look anorexic” to someone, but it really is. I’ve been skinny my whole life and I’m constantly bombarded with things like “You’re never going to get a man because you have the body of a little boy”(I didn’t know little boys had boobs?..) and “Eat something, you look disgusting.”, and my overweight friends get comments like “Put down the bag of chips, fattass”…but someone in our group of friends someone usually tries to make her feel better…while they just laugh at me when someone makes a mean skinny comment about me.
The article wasn’t saying that fat people don’t go through cruel treatment, it was just trying to say that thin people go through crap as well. People are so hell bent on hating skinny models and skinny actresses, that no one thinks skinny people have feelings.
“Real women have curves” and “Skinny women are disgusting/not real/unhealthy” campaigns are EVERYWHERE….you really never see “All body sizes are beautiful” campaigns…it’s always one or the other and it usually ends up with one insulting and putting down the other(i,e: real wome have curves/men like curves).
Sefi 4:10 am on June 15, 2010 Permalink
“And the actual truth of the matter is that a dieting person, fat or thin, does need to eat more.”
Not that I encourage trying to lose weight, but why is it assumed that a person isn’t eating enough if they are dieting? Dieting doesn’t mean starving yourself, it could just be eating more whole foods and using portion sizes, it could be eating more food or eating in a way to make sure you are fueled enough to exercise. Some people on diets eat 1500 to 2000 calories+ which can be more than non-dieting people.
Also, as Erika said, almost every campaign to boost one group will put the other down. How is anyone supposed to feel good about themselves being played off each other like some weird middle school game?